Why is my cat antisocial and not affectionate? How can I bond with her?

Some cats are simply more affectionate than others. I recommend not forcing any contact, as this can have a negative effect, but continue to offer toys and treats and try to play and interact. Over time Leo may become more affectionate, but he may not. Using pheromones like Feliway in a diffuser or spray may also help him adjust to the new situation. https://www.drsfostersmith.com/product/prod_display.cfm?pcatid=37240

Your question doesn't really describe what is going on. If the cats are fearful of you, taking time to let them approach you, and making sure you're the one feeding them, etc, can help with bonding. A toy that can be played with from a distance, such as a feather on a stick or laser pointer can also help with bonding without stress. If they get stressed out from handling, taking a break is best. If the cats are having trouble with each other, making sure they both have their own access to food, water, litter, etc can help avoid competition over resources. A pheromone diffuser such as Feli-way can also be plugged in to common rooms to help reduce stress.

Cats often do better in pairs! The age depends on your cat. If Luna tends to be more reserved, I would probably get a younger cat so that her dominance isn't threatened. But likewise if you find a cat that is similar in age or older and is friendly with other cats, it may not matter. Likewise, boy or girl doesn't matter. It depends on the cat's personality. The most important thing is how they are introduced.

You can try getting a feliway hormome diffuser to keep her calm. Keep trying to interact with her, but i tell people all the time that a cat's demeanour is compleyely determined by itself not the owner. Thete is nothing you can do to make a solitary cat a lap cat unfortunately. Some cats are lovely and affectionate, some are just selfish.

Thanks for using Petco Pet Education Center, formerly Petcoach! The main thing is trying to get him to associate you with something positive. You can try to find treats and things for him to eat that he really enjoys. You can get him to come out and feed him a treat while you pet him. This will most likely help if you stay consistent and persistent. It is important to note that some kitties are really not very affectionate and while he may become more social, he may never be a kitty who enjoys constant interaction. Good luck and have a good day!

Some cats, especially if they were feral or not handled as kittens, will never be social. You may want to discuss different methods of reducing anxiety with you veterinarian such as using feline pheromones, anti anxiety medication, and environmental changes such as tall cat trees, hiding spaces, and safe litter box placement. It is unlikely that she will ever improve dramatically, but you might notice some improvement with these techniques. Best of luck and thank you for using Pet Coach.

I'm sorry to hear Zombie doesn't get along with you. If you're busy at work all the time and unable to spend time with her, looking for someone that may be able to do so during the day, looking to get a second cat, or considering rehoming her if she isn't a good fit for your household are all possible ideas. Treating any issues such as separation anxiety while you are gone is also a good thing that may be contributing to her stress. I've included a few articles below that may help: https://www.petcoach.co/cat/condition/separation-anxiety-1/ https://www.petcoach.co/article/7-ways-to-bond-with-your-cat/